The Month of "Building"

The Month of "Building"

I write this to you after briefly deciding not to ride my bike outside because there are *leans in close and whispers* people who I know. Thus, this post. 

I wanted to write this because I have been inspired by my life, because sometimes I look at someone and think "Wow, they really have their life together." So, I have decided that I too, want some of that cake. And maybe you do as well. 

I will take each week of this month (and possibly for the rest of summer) to do things to get my life back into bleeding order because it is incredibly out into the crazies. Yeah. 

I have even decided to make a schedule! Which is great. I will start by doing things that will build me both emotionally, physically and mentally. 

If you want to feel inspired (to an extent) read this:

Physically Build *(ack) 

Now, this one (for me) is kind of really hard. I will be doing yoga and going to the gym in the mornings and working on my arms because I want that "warrior Elf" look. 

In this category for you I would say, do something that will relax you while also keep you in shape and then do something that will balance you and make you more "Elf-esque".  

Emotionally

I will be doing things that relieve my stress and calm me down and put me in "the zone". I will practice singing, art and acting. I may even start to keep a journal. I will also pamper myself as well with face masks, feet baths, relaxing, more sort of, "spa days". 

For you, I would say do what makes you happy and feel at ease, speak positively to yourself, just for a month. 

Mentally

I will start by reading and do things that help stimulate my brain, more things that aren't very technology-related although, that will be really hard for me but maybe it's for the better(?). I will also do sudoku and word puzzles, because they are fun. 

Do things that will help you in the brain, read, write, "create", do those sudoku things or word puzzles. 

Those are my plans, let's see if I can actually follow through! 

What will you do?

Yours,

Lexi AKA LordoftheFridge 

Self: Forgiveness

Self: Forgiveness

*No, that is not supposed to say "self forgiveness" 

This new series is something I have been wanting to do for awhile, I am still quite so sure what I want to feature in it but I suppose just "building" yourself, understanding yourself is what this will be about. Since this is a considerably "new", it is just a baby, which was indeed a random, useless fact. 

Forgiveness can be really freaking hard, depending on what or whom you attempting to forgive. For some it comes easy for others, not so much. On this topic I feel in order to forgive [others] you must forgive yourself. Because that's the way I like to bleeding do things in this joint, getting the hard things over with first and facing whatever else comes along the way. If you're like me, then this is for you. And if you're not, try something new. 

You sometimes hear people say "Your past doesn't define you". Well, for me it did. But I never carried it like a weight, I don't know why, it's just the way things have always been. Your past or regrets might be your own ball and chain in this situation, but one thing you must remember is that you're sad, you're upset, you're angry, and that's okay and you need to realize that. I thought of my past or the things I've done in a different way, I thought of them as sort of, stepping stones, they got me to where I am now, and I would rather be here then back in that situation. 

Look at how far you've come. You shouldn't beat yourself up about something you cannot control. Things happened that way because they were meant to be, they don't need a reason, they don't need anything, they just happened. Perhaps they did have a reason in another life, I don't like telling myself that though, I like to tell myself instead that whatever happens (or has happened) was meant that way. I need to be harsh with myself and realistic, if I get too hopeful I'll crash and I know it. 

Now, whether this thing that happened was a big thing to you or considerably small but still a bothersome weight, whether it was something you did or something you said, you need to realize you're only human. All of these will one day just become memories, stories and I know how depressing that sounds but really, try to make yours a good one, sure it could be one that people could look at and scoff at but if you enjoyed it, if you loved it then it was really worth something. Really. And the last thing you want to look back on is your regrets, think of all your progress, all the people you've met, all the good books you've read, all the gorgeous things you've seen. If you don't have one, then that's fine, perfectly fine, all that matters is that you've had this life, look at all those idiots and fools you've seen and heard of. 

You can't live your life dwelling and sort of, living in your past forever, you need to let yourself go for just a second, maybe even for a year. No, it's not going to be all happy "prance-prancy, gold-ribboned unicorns dancing in the moonlight" there will be days you wish you've never lived. But there will be times of such endless beauty, even if for a short time. You shouldn't let the bad things eat up the good things, sometimes they do, but that's okay, it's not your fault. And you shouldn't let the good things make you think that there will be no bad things, you'll only end up hurting yourself. 

Life to me, is really just stepping stones, some of it makes me cringe, some things I am still battling, but I am not letting them take over, why? Because it's the way I live. You may need a different lecture though, but I hope this one helped in some way. At least you read it:) 

Yours,

Lexi AKA LordoftheFridge

PS

wow, my posts are sometimes rather casual and slap happy, but this one was rather chill and counselor-yish. I kind of like it. 

But never mind that, look at this picture:

It speaks to me on a spiritual level. 

A Proper Introduction

FINALLY, An Intro!

*Yay!... 

*OMG 

*Get to know ur blogger 

Hello, I have had this diddly darn thing for what I would consider "awhile" and even though no one really reads this blog I (still for some strange reason) thought it would be less awkward (for me on this hand because I am SHELLfish, ha.) to let you know about me, feel me, be me. Blogging really is the equivalent of shouting down a (usually) irresponsive (is that a word?) cave, and on some occasions hearing some water droplets or shifting in the dark abyss. I enjoy it though. 

The Blogger:

Anyways, you know me as LordoftheFridge, I will try to keep this as uncheesy as possible for you. I have a Tumblr, and no I do not promote myself, so you may never really know my URL for, of course, dramatic effect. I have a strange sense of humor, I think puns are hilarious and I will laugh for five minutes at one. I love TV shows and reading, which has a lot to do with why I am into acting so much. I just discovered my passion for it many short moons ago. I enjoy singing, it helps me escape. For me, the arts and what I do are like being in the Avatar state, once I go in I can't stop, it puts me in a zone, I suppose. 

Looking at my ol' archives and posts you can see, I haven't been on this website too long, posting-wise that is, you can also draw to the conclusion that I am a hardcore feminist, I have no shame in that. I also have low self-esteem and confidence as well, and to me, singing and acting have really helped with that, so has this website! 

I have trust issues, I could never open up to someone, even if I had known them my entire life. They have to truly understand me and I them. 

I enjoy reading and watching "behind the scenes" in films I love. That's actually what really drew me into theater, just the whole magic of it, the whole system, it's amazing! I'm not quite sure what made me-OH (I am far too lazy to go back and y'know delete that part that was totally useless)(deal with it) it was through choir, I loved it. My teacher complimented me on my voice in one of our songs that we were singing and it was through that little "nudge" that got me started. 

My fandoms are as follows:

Harry potter, Sherlock, Doctor Who, Lord of the Rings, The Hobbit, Merlin, Homestuck (this was quite recent actually), Castle, The Avengers, Star Trek, Supernatural, Les Mis and Hannibal (I think that's it, there might be more). 

My favorite actress of all time is Helena Bonham Carter, she is perfect. 

I enjoy green tea while reading at night. I have like five or six fandom shirts. 

I would like to think I am comfortable with myself, everyone has those days where they're just like, "No." once they look or even think about themselves I can say that I have had those days as well. 

I have moved four times in my lifetime (yay, locations...). It is one of my dreams to own an apartment over-looking a city. I also want a husky. 

Fun Fact: I would drop everything and anything just to become an Elf Huntress.  

My hair is what I would like to call an Elvish Mullet, it's origin is uh, scene hair from what I like to call "The Dark Ages". It is also Midnight Brown, people always think it's black but, no. They're wrong. 

I have a pretty tight knit group of friends, I love them, they are all so cute and amazing. 

Yay... photo/selfie time! 

I am sorry but that truly is the only good photo of me. I try, guys, I promise, I really do.

The Blog:

My blog is basically anything and everything that is on my mind on that particular moment. I will post things that are beauty-related, feminism, opinion, books, thoughts, feelings, things that have been bothering me, things I have come up with, thrifting, fandoms, cosplaying, relationships and advice. 

Know that I say the things I say not to sway your opinion but so that you at least have the knowledge of it. I will respect what you say and educate you if needed.  

Well, that's basically it(: Thank you for reading this by the way!

Yours,

Lexi AKA LordoftheFridge

Good talk. 

If you have any questions or anything just say the word, friend! 

Slut(?)

Slut(?) 

*Yes, I did indeed mean to do that strange "(?)" deal, it's what all the kids are doing these days

*That and  the supposed art of hash tagging

What's poplin fellow interneters?(forgive me, I attempted the use of a hyphen, it just looked so unbearably awkward) I know, I haven't made a post in a while, and I'm sorry about that. I've been away so long I forgot what font I used as well as the entire sort of, for lack of a better word, "system". I think I have it down alright though, so far I mean you just don't know with these things. Anyways, what I wanted to talk about was the supposed slut picture we have conjured up today. Of course this has to do with self-respect and people who have platinum blonde hair with formidable breasts and dark skin, right? 

NO

*Throws confetti in the air and tap dances away* 

I made it underlined, bolded AND on the largest font setting, that's how you know it's business. Why is a girl who clearly enjoys sex, letting loose, flirting, dancing and whatever else not a slut? Well, let me start first by saying while asking the question, why are we so scared of sex? I mean, it was how we were all brought up into this world. But it's a shame and it suddenly becomes our business once we hear someone's been sleeping around, or if they just enjoy it. We have stressed that so, so, so much that if we see a girl wearing what she feels comfortable in and what she likes, we're calling her a slut. Do we know this girl's personal life? No, we don't. But if we were her friend we would know and understand that maybe she has strict parents, she's an honor student and tonight she decided to take a break from it all. Maybe it was pretty fookin hot outside as well, see, we just don't know these things so, if you don't know then don't make it your business. We shouldn't make girls feel ashamed about their bodies, I mean they're boobs, every female has 'em, and it's up to her how she chooses to wear her clothes. Even with legs, everyone has these, why is it such a great deal? Because schools oversexualize them, that's why. Apparently, everything women do now revolves around trying to appeal to men. These are my legs, they help me get around and if you're going to call me a slut for walking around in shorts when it's really hot then you clearly jump to conclusions and need to rethink your definition of "slut". I'm getting off topic here but I am not finished yet, young soldier. 

You may be thinking now, "Well, when is it okay to call a girl a slut?" and when you do that you need to ask yourself some questions and should read up on feminism a bit. I can't really tell you when it's okay, because in what situation would actually need to call a girl a slut? BUT I can, however, tell you when it's really not okay. 

When It Is Not Okay To Call A Girl A Slut:

* When she breaks up with you and/or rejects you

* If she dances with some guy on the floor

* If she's "flirting" (the reason for the " " is because saying someone is flirting is almost another way of judging, I know because I've done it before, what if she's just friendly? or enjoys attracting that sort of attention?)

* If she has tanned skin

* If she enjoys wearing thongs and lingerie, just for chilling about 

* If she likes to attend parties and have a good time

* If she twerks or enjoys moving her body

* If she sits next to a guy who appears to be attractive

* If she's trying to attract males in a publicly, somewhat, obvious manner

* If she wears PINK and enjoys straightening her hair

* If she's comfortable with her body and has body confidence and likes to show it off in her downtime 

* If she's wearing a bikini 

* If she's existing 

* If she enjoys sex 

* If she likes being sexy to herself and the gender of her choice

* If she's wearing shorts and a tank top 

* If she has a belly ring

* If she likes tight, short dresses that expose what she has to offer the Gods

* If she dresses up like a comic book character 

* If she strives to be a pole dancer/exotic dancer or even porn star

* If she had anything augmented (boobs, butt etc.) (was that "etc." even necessary?)

* If she posted a naked photo of herself

* If her boobs are hanging out just to say hello

* If she has a big butt and big boobs and likes to show it off every once in a while

* If she dyes her hair (mostly just bleaching)

* If she appears, what most would call, "fake"

* If she wears a lot of makeup

* If she likes high heels 

* If your boyfriend or someone you like has attraction towards her

I think I have made myself clear, perhaps there are a couple I've missed, but there you go. "Why should we not teach people that all of those things are wrong? Why? WHHHYYYY?!!" Because there really is nothing wrong with any of those things. This is her body, she will choose what do with it whenever she pleases. Whether it's wearing turtle necks, skinny jeans and combat boots in the summer, or really short shorts, loubitans (how do you even spell that word?) and a tank top. You can't just shame girls soley based on what little you know about her, and if you do that means you're shallow, over judgmental and like to form solid opinions at a first glance. We shouldn't be telling children it's not okay to do any of that, otherwise we're teaching them to be ashamed of their own bodies, but the worst thing is, we've already done it. Men and people who are seen as "respectable" have slut-shamed so hard women, are slut-shaming women. This has happened so hard that it's actually considered an "issue". This is her boobs, butt, legs, arms, shoulders, face (body I suppose would've done just as fine) not all of civilization's. 

"That's a mother's job, isn't it? To keep her child from being a slut- If it's a girl at least."

Just my little mind juice. I will probably update this blog once more in the future, hang tight. 

Yours,

Lexi AKA LordoftheFridge

Relationships: The OTHER

Relationships: The Other Ms. Or Mr. 

Stage One

* A topic of which I have no shame in speaking of 

* Perhaps this is more of a rant with a resolution though 

Hello, sugarshack. I wanted to talk about something thats been on my mind for awhile, actually. There are loads of stages to relationships, like this one. For you and I this stage shall be proclaimed as STAGE UNO. I, myself have been not a doer but a victim, or in other words the OTHER girl or HER of course I was completely unaware but I do have warning signs and whatever else to help you push along. I am a person of experience, meaning I feel experience is the best thing anyone can really do or have thrust upon them therefore, I speak from it. (Do you ever get those really random bruises on your body that hurt like the fiery pits of Mount Doom and you have no idea where in the name of Davy Jones' Locker they came from? I have at least three right now) 

Are You the Other Woman Or Man?

Sadly I have experienced this enough to speak of, but on with the warning signs and symptoms. So, you're either here right now because A) You're curious and suspicious  B) You've actually seen full-blown proof but need a little guideline C) You're undyingly confused about this person in more ways than one -or- D) You're an excellent planner and are reading about the warning signs are whatever else that's a complete and utter "package deal" or even the possible E) You're just bored. Now, I can't save you from relationships like these or even getting hurt BUT I can advise you while giving the good old one two. 

Things to look out for if you answered A-D (or possibly E)-

- You constantly see them chatting up other people- but if you do confront them about it they claim that it was just purely friendship chat and that they're married or in a relationship. 

- They seem distracted while speaking with you almost distant as though they are self-aware *unless if thats they're nature, see you really have to get to know and understand this person and they're typical behavior and I know that sounds unbelievabley creepy, because well... it is BUT it'll save you some feelings

- Their attention is always on someone else they probably find attractive-- and if you try to tell me it's because it's in their nature:

- They're clingy almost as though they're afraid to lose you *Now, this usually different for some people, but from my experience they always acted like they were afraid to lose me but rarely would speak to me for example through technology like they weren't quite putting through the effort. The person you may dealing with might actually set you aside for lots of things and claim that they are "busy" but when they talk to you in person they're all over that fabulous piece of human.

- They like objectifying the gender of which they are attracted *and sometimes are chauvinists* 

- They move on like water, as though they have no feelings about leaving someone, now this is typically the last stage you'll experience if it is indeed that you are the latter BUT sometimes you'll actually witness them doing that to someone who they had a little flame with. 

- You never really came to know this person or really understand them, it was more of a playful bit. 

I honestly can't think of anymore symptoms but if I do I'll be sure to update and whatever.

How To Avoid These Situations, Or Get Out Of One (oooh alliteration--almost)

If you're like me and can't quite tell people you're feelah openly because thats the way you are, then I suggest slowly distance yourself from this person, I know it's hard, its hard. That's why I said slowly though with time it'll pass and they will move on. What I would personally do is use technology to your advantage, don't start conversations anymore, block their updates on Facebook (it's possible and works like instant coffee) and after you feel yourself distancing then stop paying attention to them when you see them in public, yes you may wave and whatever else, I'm all about the time just don't use the time excuse because you're not ready because at some point they will be ready and will drop you like it's hot. If you're one of the people who are bold and brave then do as I would do if I were like you, approach them and talk to them about it, if they persist then ignore them. 

This Part Is The Part For People Who Were Hurt In The Aftermath Of A Relationship Such As This One

No I'm not going to sit here and blather at you because of how much of a fool I think you were, not today. In fact, I will help you out because I've been there and can relate. This is a healing process of which I can help and soothe you and be a virtual creepster.

Step One:

You're most likely hurt, angry, upset, confused, bewildered and disgusted. If you're thinking about that hatred e-mail, message or speech, I challenge you to hold off for a single day maybe even two, why? Because a lot of times when we're angry we'll say things we don't mean and end up feeling even worse. Just one day. Now for the rest of the day do what makes you happy or relaxed, yes it will hurt and you'll think of them constantly but remember this is square one it's suppose to be this way because we're humans, we have feelings towards each other and thoughts and emotions. Give yourself a spa day, or make this be a running day, make this be a hunting or game day. What I do when I've fluffed it is I dedicate an entire day to myself, I read and watch a trilogy of a movie or an entire series of a show while reading and drinking tea and switching on and off from that. I spend the entire day in nothing but my pajamas and treat myself to a face mask and whatever type of sweets or cravings I have. This may be different for you, you may like kickboxing, singing, dancing, reading, writing, hunting, gaming etc. whatever makes you feel at ease, do it. This is a day dedicated to your sassy self.

*Repeats welcome

Step Two:

Drainage/or venting. Let those feelings out, laugh at them for being such an idjit, scribble out your feelings for them in a journal, art out your feelings, yell, scream, shout anything, just stay away from that bottle of beer or wine or pain-numbing serum, you're going to get through this as a human and come out as a goddess or god you don't need those toxins in your, life you're miles better than that. I believe in you. Today, (depending on how many times you repeated stage one) may be a good day to think through what you want to say to this person, if it is you're feeling the conversation but if you can't bear the thought then don't. 

Step Three:

Forgiveness. Forgive that idiot and yourself. This can be one of the hardest stages to deal with, but you need to understand you're a civilized, cultured person with feelings and they clearly aren't. Try to see it from their mentally 2nd grader point of view. Laugh at them once again for a bit if it helps. Try--try to be a little understanding even if it's not 100%. 

Step Four:

Better. Now you're not better by this stage thats not quite what I was getting at, unless if you are, but try to do things in this stage that make you feel good about yourself. New haircut? Color? Highlights? Makeup? Clothes? Shoes? Beauty products? I want you to go out feeling like a majestic piece of mortal because you deserve it, especially with what that person put you through. No, you don't have to go see them like this, you can if you're prepared, but spend your fabulous looks out in the public for a spin especially if you're not feeling up to it--this is stage four, time to face the music *adjusts belt*. 

Step Five:

Something old something new. Try someone new, go on a date with that person you've been goggling at for AGES and if you really don't feel up to it, then don't and if you don't feel up to not doing anything but rather doing nothing, then go back to stage one I dare you. 

I hope this helped you!

Yours,

Lexi AKA LordoftheFridge

PS 
This picture was funny and I was laughing alone in my room and was hoping you would maybe do the same(?)

Despiration

Despiration

*It's a thing now

* I've proclaimed it to be, therefore it is. 

*No, not desperation 

*Think it with me...or say it, dee-sper-A-shaun 

Hello, I never have quite the right idea how to open these...ever. Any who, what I wanted to talk to you about was this thing I made up and which I am very proud of. The name you ask? Despiration, it is. Now, what is this "despiration" you ask? How can I become of it? Despiration is the opposite of what we know and cherish as inspiration, things that make you not want to do or "be".  Have you guys ever felt despired before? I can think of a few times I was, I'm sure you may be able to as well, let us pile onto the despiration train, shall we?

Things That Make Me Feel "Despired":

*If your computer tries to correct you by saying "despiration" or something of the like, basically, it's wrong, we're the right ones. 

1) 50 Shades of Grey -or- 50 Shades of Shame 

2) Math 

3) Stereotypes 

4) Homophobes 

5) Politicians 

6) Objectification 

7) Shallow-minded people

8) Gas prices

9) Douchers *Similar to"douche bags" 

10) One of those (future reference for a future post) 

Now that I feel you guys possibly maybe get the gist (10's a pretty good, solid number, ey?) what are things that make you feel despired? Should I go more in depth? Yes. Because I have nothing else to do. 

Despiration: A briefing

Does anything you don't like make you feel almost a yearning, boiling almost inspiration? But you know indeed that it is most definitely NOT inspiration? Then resort to despiration.  Sort of weigh out two and two. If it makes you feel inspired or in this case rather... despired to go on then you can say you finally have a word and a feeling to match! Things that make you feel despired make you want to crawl into a corner and not go on but you still almost want to do or say something about it. 

Ex.

"Work makes me feel despired because I have to wake up at an ungodly hour." 

I don't have much else to say, BUT I do indeed wish you enjoyed this post. 

Yours,

Lexi AKA LordoftheFridge

PS

Sorry I haven't gallomphed my feelings or whatever on you in a few days. How've you been? I was just busy y'know procrastinating. 

PPS 

I feel like this post has a mighty NEED for a picture... I'll go find one...

Ha, this picture made me laugh, although I don't quite understand the meaning fully, but nevertheless. 

Oh and this song is really good. Ever watched Lord of the Rings? The guy who plays Pippin (Billy Boyd) is actually in a band and they're pretty good.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Kqi12ayiCg  

And look I made it link-able clickable so you guys wouldn't have to copy and paste it because I care about you. 

Update:

I just realized I could have just used the word "demotivation", this is why I cannot have nice things.

Book Nook

Lexi's BookNook

*No I did not forget to do the space button

Hello! I know, my second post in the very same day! I just-- 

Okay, anyways I dub thee a series *holds up magical septor of power*. This series will be my book series! I just love books a lot guys... 

These BookNook posts will be book/or author recommendations. Exciting day for fans of books. Are you guys prepared? Are you? Are you really...? 

Memoirs/Autobiographies-

1) Memoirs of a Geisha By Arthur Golden:

This book was absolutely phenomenal! Mr.Golden created an entirely believable character with a tremendous backstory. Probably, my favorite book and movie. This book has some mature content, I will not lie. This book tells of a young girl's life named Chiyo she came from nothing, in an incredibly small town. There is something unusual about her though, that would be her eyes, she was Japanese but instead of the standard brown eyes she had striking grey/blue eyes. Her family isn't doing so good, especially with the low income her dad has especially at this point in Chiyo's young life with her mom being sick. Her dad sells both his daughters off, just so they could maybe make more money. Chiyo gets sold to the Geisha house while her sister--who's not so lucky--gets the shorter end of the stick is sent off elsewhere. Chiyo grows up without her family, in a Geisha house. Flash years ahead, Chiyo is making her ancestors proud, being the most popular Geisha of her time. But this doesn't mean she didn't make enemies along the way. This book has so much to it! Her transformation throughout her years is unbelievable! 

Rate: 10/10

2) John Barowman- Anything goes with Carole E. Barrowman: 

This man is amazing! John tells you of his life through utter sass and hilarity. If you know of him, you must read this! And if you already have I applaud you:) And if you don't know who he is, then give it a shot! I do apologize as I don't have much to say about it. 

Rate: 9/10

Fantasy-ish Books-

1) The Hobbit By J.R.R. Tolkien:

This book was fantastic and brilliantly written! JRR Tolkien has such an excellent narrator "voice" throughout this book! There is so much detail, I would spend hours pouring over this book, when in truth it felt as it were only 30 minutes. He drags you into this phenomenal world and doesn't let you back out. Not gonna lie there were some parts that made me cry-- but, HEY! It's a good book! I just wish it never ended though. Sorry, but I'm too lazy to write a summary, just read it, you won't regret it.

Rate: 10/10 A+++ 

Fiction(?)-

1) Looking for Alaska By: John Green:

This book will leave you smiling and teary-eyed. John Green shows a fantastic character development and shows you that in almost any given situation you will learn and grow from it. Sure, some parts weren't so hot and I had to stop reading it for a few days but he wraps it up in a way that is legendary. You must read this book!

Rate: 9.8/10

Books I am reading at this very moment that are really good and should be mentioned-

*Now, I won't summarize these, for I am too lazy but I will give you their name and author

Lord of the Rings By J.R.R Tolkien

Twenties Girl By Sophie Kinsella

Arabian Nights

Aesops Fabels 

Hope you enjoyed today's post and were inspired to read some BECAUSE THEY ARE INDEED REALLY GOOD! 

Yours,

Lexi AKA LordoftheFridge